Three's the Charm

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.


The truth is there are several ingredients that build towards a good marriage.  Communication, one on one time, trust, sex, understanding are all good and important ingredients to any marriage.  

Those ingredients are important, but the truth is we are human.  Being human makes us imperfect.  When work is done by someone imperfect, there are bound to be mistakes.   Wife and husband, would make an imperfect cord because they are two imperfect people.  A flaw or weakness would be found in the cords and without a perfect third strand would be likely to fall apart.  The three stranded cord is a representation of a wife, her husband and the Lord.  The Lord is perfect, He is without flaw or weakness.  As long as He is the center in the relationship then when we fail (ex. we can’t have sex) the Lord holds us together.  “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

The key ingredient, the one ingredient marriage cannot/should not go without is the Lord.  The problem becomes when we try to replace the key ingredient with one of our other ingredients.  Often times I feel like sex is the key ingredient...with a mindset like that its no wonder we would get depressed.

Exodus 34:14  Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.

The questions become:  Has sex become god in our relationship?  Where is God in relationship?  Is He outside looking in as we try to fix our relationship by ourselves?  Or have you invited the Lord to be the center of your relationship?  Have you given Him the reins?
 
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